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Handling the Holidays While Going Through Your Minnesota Divorce

children and divorce divorce divorce mediation doing divorce differently Nov 18, 2022
Handling the holidays divorce minnesota

It’s that time of year again and the holidays are right around the corner. I know that the Holidays are meant to be a special time of the year that fills our cups and leaves us feeling refreshed and ready for the new year. But for many, the holidays have the opposite effect. For many, the holidays can bring feelings of loneliness, anxiety, or even depression. Now add your MN divorce on top of all of that. 

 

I interviewed marriage and family therapist Brian Burns on this week's episode!  Listen here.  Brian shares his top tips to make the holidays less stressful through a divorce. I hope that Brian’s tips can help guide you through this holiday season whether you are a newly single parent, or are trying to do divorce differently this holiday season. Here are Brian Burn’s top tips: 

Don’t share your truth.  This is not a time to discuss politics, religion or money!

Do not make your issues your kid’s issues. I think this is really important to remember, especially around the holidays. This is not the time to talk with your partner about finances, or parenting plan, or why the relationship led to divorce. 

Whether you choose to be a single parent or co-parent through the holidays, take the time to really invest in your kid’s experience and make them your focus. Children do so much better when they are free to be happy and excited and the family is together. 

Keep in the front of your mind that your kids are watching you, and they are learning how to be human. They are learning how to be in relationships, how to be in a family. We want them to learn how to navigate family, whatever family is because you can’t always choose and predict. Show your children how to put your differences aside to come together and celebrate one another. 

Divorce is hard. If you are going through the trauma of a divorce, on top of the holidays, that’s hard. Make sure to give yourself some grace, forgive yourself for how hard this is. I cannot say this enough, it’s so important to take care of yourself so that you can care for your children with a healthy mindset. Seek support from a therapist or family coach to best move forward through divorce. 

I hope these tips are helpful for you and your family this holiday season. If you or someone you know is struggling with divorce, please share this with them. I truly believe that it is possible to enjoy celebrating the holidays after a divorce and I want to help you achieve happiness this holiday season. 

If you need Divorce or Marital Support, or know someone who does, please contact me.  I am here and I want to help. 



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