How to Feel Confident with your Decision to Divorce

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Feel Confident with your decision on your MN Divorce

Are you in the midst of making a decision about a MN divorce? It is so easy to spin out on the decisions that we are making, especially when you are in the depth of learning difficult information. It’s easy to feel like you have to make a decision quickly or like you have to make the hardest choice, but learning when to step back and assess the whole picture is vital to feeling confident in any decision. This week on the podcast, I had Tracy Pleschourt from Self Made U on the show to talk about how to feel confident with your decision to divorce. 


The first thing I want to say is that you do not have to make a decision within a certain amount of time. In order to feel confident about your decision, you must take your time and gather all the facts and information to ensure that you are confident and happy with your reasons why you have reached this decision. If you can say to yourself “I feel confident about this decision” and it is believable, then you will feel equipped and those feelings will perpetuate a much better decision. 


Tracy talked about the difference between the primitive and prodigy sides of our brain and how they play into our decision making. The primitive part of our brain makes decisions to keep us safe. When it is in charge, the likelihood of you having looked at all sides of the circumstance is unlikely. When you have stepped back and are able to make a decision from the prodigy side of the brain, you’ll feel much more confident, because that side of the brain wants all the facts. As you are faced with a difficult choice, do some exploration and look at the situation with curiosity. Ask yourself, “do I really want to make a decision from this feeling”? If the answer is no, then allow yourself to take the time you need until the answer is yes. 


Once you have made the decision and you feel confident about it, write down the reasons why. I don’t know about you, but I often find myself going back to a decision I made a week ago and I start to question why I made that decision. When I have written down why, I can review it and assure myself that I made the decision confidently and I can trust it. 

I am always so grateful for my time with Tracy on the show as she has great advice. If you are looking for a coach yourself, please reach out to Tracy, she is an incredible resource. When you’ve come to the decision that you are going to proceed with a divorce, and you are looking for a mediator in the Minnesota area, please reach out to me. Also, if you have a friend or loved one going through a divorce, share my blog or podcast with them for additional support!

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