Let Them: Navigating Divorce with Grace, Boundaries & Co-Parenting Smarts

Divorce doesn’t have to be a battleground. With the right mindset—and the right attorneys—it can become a launchpad for clarity, peace, and even personal growth.

In this episode of Doing Divorce Different, I spoke with two incredible matrimonial attorneys from New York City: Lauren Crane and Morgan Mazor of Bender and Crane. Their compassionate, intelligent approach to divorce law is exactly what so many families need today: part legal strategy, part emotional coaching, and 100% focused on building healthier futures.

Divorce as a New Beginning

Lauren, inspired by her father’s legacy in matrimonial law, and Morgan, who brings a modern, solution-focused perspective, both agree: divorce is not just the end of something—it’s the beginning of something else.

From pre-nups and post-nups to high-conflict custody and creative co-parenting strategies, their work covers far more than courtrooms. They help people protect their peace, communicate more clearly, and rebuild stronger.

Co-Parenting Wisdom: Think Long-Term

Morgan and Lauren emphasize the emotional impact on children—not just during the divorce but in all the years after.

They shared some powerful co-parenting strategies:

• Use neutral locations for kid exchanges to reduce conflict.

• Visualize future events—like graduations and weddings—and parent with that long view in mind.

• Adopt the “Let Them” mindset: Let your ex say what they want, act how they want. You focus on what you can control—your response, your tone, your boundaries.

"You can't control your ex. But you can control how your child experiences this divorce." – Lauren Crane

Divorce Coaching, Not Just Lawyering

What truly sets Lauren and Morgan apart is their coaching-style guidance. They train clients to de-escalate conflict, manage communication better, and approach their divorce like a long-term investment in peace.

And if you're in New York? Their practical advice might just save you years of litigation. With only five judges handling divorces in all of Manhattan, their emphasis on mediation and out-of-court settlements isn’t just nice—it’s necessary.

Whether you're at the beginning of your divorce journey or stuck in the middle of a co-parenting challenge, Lauren and Morgan offer something rare: legal clarity paired with real emotional intelligence.

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